Recently I have had a lot of friends who are having a hard time moving on from their past, to allow themselves to have a happier future.
In my opinion, we should never forget about our past because it is what has shaped us into the people we are today. It’s also not about necessarily “letting go”, but more of accepting that the relationship has ended, appreciating it for what it was, and moving forward.
It’s important to ask yourself how you are supposed to reach your ultimate peak of happiness if you are settling for someone who makes you feel any less than that.
If a relationship or friendship has ended, it ended because either one, or both of you weren’t happy to your fullest potential. I know it can be scary to have the strength to move forward and try to get over that person, but it’s important to remind yourself you don’t deserve to ever settle. When people show you who they are, believe them… The first time.
Everyday I am thankful for everything that has happened to me because from every relationship and friendship I have had that didn’t work out, I’ve always learned something about the situation and myself. There has been multiple times I found myself in situations where I was with someone who would tell me that I wouldn’t find better, and the amount of happiness I wanted in a relationship wasn’t realistic. I’ve been told my expectations are too high, and that no one will ever treat me the way I want to be treated. All I can say is that if I didn’t have the strength to move on from those type of people who had that mindset, I would have never found better, or reached the amount of happiness in my life that I have now. From staying positive, never letting someone convince me of making me think I deserve less than I do, and to not believing I shouldn’t get treated any less then I want, I am currently in my ultimate relationship goal. I wouldn’t be with the man I am today that constantly keeps a smile on my face, and makes every day my favourite one, if I settled for being any less then the happiest. Having the strength to move forward and always knowing your worth is very important. Just because one person doesn’t treat you the way you deserve to be treated, does not mean there isn’t one who would love to treat you better than you’ve ever imagined.
Remember that life is about moving forward and being the best you can be, not going backwards and wasting your time with something that wasn’t meant to be. The happiness you deserve is out there, so never settle for anything less.